The Turkish ‘Kinsey Report’, Part 3 – First Time Sex

Turkish Sexuality Survey Question —
How would you describe your first sexual experience?

As Metin Üstündag was saying in Part 2…

Until recently, Turkish kids got their sex education in a very haphazard manner — with mostly bad results. My generation was luckier, in some ways — because of what happened in the mid-1970’s in Yesilcam (Turkey’s Hollywood-like film capital located in Istanbul).

The Turkish Erotic Films industry was born (and thrived) during that time and it provided my generation with a sex education, of sorts — though it fell well short of being authoritative. What could we expect? In the role of our sex educator was a porn star, Aydemir Akbas (now a legitimate actor at age 70, who has more than 95 films to his credit). And when he’d leer sexily at the women in those early films, they’d immediately begin to moan with exaggerated desire. In fact, those films probably did more to a develop our sense of humor about sex, than they did to educate us about its ‘finer points’.

Headlines from the sexuality survey…

  • 6 of 10 virgin couples felt ‘excitement’ at the thought of their first sexual congress as partners.
  • 23% of those surveyed felt ‘lust’ during their first sexual experience. The second most mentioned feeling was ‘nervousness’ — noted by 10.6% of participants.
  • Of those citing a feeling of ‘lust’ during their first sexual experience, most were aged 16-34
  • Men (6.2%) more than women (4.9%) described their first sexual experiences as ‘fatiguing’.
  • Slightly more women (9.9%) than men (8.8%) described their first sexual experience with ‘repugnance, guilt, or anger.’ And…
  • Of the more educated women in the survey, one-third of High School finishers and an equal percentage of University graduates were definite in describing their first sexual experiences as ‘unpleasant’, even ‘bad’. But…
  • Men and women equally (6.8%) said their first sexual experience made them “feel safe and secure.”
  • The 4 most-favored places for first-time sex were:

    1) One’s own home (Male – 43%, Female – 82% )

    2) Someone else’s home (M – 18%, F – 7% )

    3) A hotel (M – 9%, F – 3% )

    4) A brothel (M – 20%, F – 0% )

  • First-time sex-partners fell into three main categories:

    1) Husband/wife (Male – 25%, Female – 81% )

    2) Boyfriend/girlfriend (M – 27%, F – 13% )

    3) Prostitutes (M – 27%, F – 0% )

  • Among the celebrities polled, we were drawn to the ‘first time sex’ observations of the full-blooded veteran-actress Müjde Ar and the multi-talented Hülya Avsar…

    Film and TV Actress Müjde Ar

    It’s probably not fair to generalize about men. And, I don’t believe that every pubescent child rings at the door of a brothel — though life is faster and bolder in the big cities these days. As for the subject of the first sexual experience, in my opinion, a man’s greatest fear…is that his nervousness will show!

    All-round Entertainer Hülya Avsar

    I didn’t feel any nervousness, I felt excitement. That’s got much to do with the partner you’re with — and how the man makes you feel. I didn’t suffer a bit at the crucial moment. Afterwards, I had to hear it from him that I was no longer a virgin.

    In Part 4: More headlines from the Turkish ‘Kinsey Report’ — and answers to the Sexuality Survey Question, ‘How old were you when you had your first sexual relationship?

    Click following to access a fully illustrated HTML version of Turkish Sexuality Survey — First Time Sex

    Sex Tips During Pregnancy

    In some cultures, having sex during pregnancy is forbidden. However, medically, there is no harm in making love during pregnancy especially when there are no complications associated with the pregnancy. Many will opt not to have sex during pregnancy due to self consciousness and the thought of making love in the presence of their unborn children.

    Many will have different reasons to justify why it is not right. But, during pregnancy couples need to know that it is perfectly alright and the following are top things to be kept in mind.

    1. No harm can come to the baby through sex because the baby is protected by amniotic fluid as well as a wall of mucus that seals the cervix to keep away all possible infections. However, it is important for those with difficult pregnancies to check with their doctor for advice.

    2. During pregnancy, women will have elevated libido. However, this will vary from woman to woman. In the first trimester, the sex drive will be low due to nausea caused by morning sickness as well as affected mood due to hormonal changes. During the second trimester, many women have the highest sex drive.

    3. Men have the power to change the mood of women during pregnancy. Understanding and love will show caring and women will be more responsive. Therefore, regarding sex, avoiding simple conflict will help during this time.

    4. Although some men will not want to have sex with pregnant women, many men will find their pregnant partners pretty attractive. Men have to rise to the occasion for success. Talking to a doctor about it will shed light.

    5. Sex positions during pregnancy can make all the difference. There are good resources available online that can guide on positions that will not cause discomfort to women.

    6. Sex has the power to induce labour and many times, women who are late on delivery can be advised to have sex. Having said this, it is important to follow your heart during pregnancy and do what you feel right to suit you and your partner. Making love after all is more than sex.

    Top Sex Positions During Pregnancy

    I will divulge to you the results in a survey conducted in a forum for sexually active couples about the best sex positions during pregnancy. Here are the lists of the top sex positions during pregnancy according to a 50 respondents of the said survey:

    1. Spoon position: This is where the couple lie on their side. The man stays at the back of the woman while making an entry to the vagina. In this position, the couple will be forming a letter C.

    2. Face to face: In this position, the couple faces each other while engaging in having sex. This is ideal for later stages of pregnancy since the weight of the abdomen is shifted to the side while the uterus is supported by hands. It is also more intimate since both partners will be able to see each other.

    3. Sex On The Edge Of The Bed: This is more like a missionary position. However, the woman’s vagina would be directly on top of the edge of the bed so that the man can be able to penetrate it while standing up or bending down. The man is in control of the thrust and speed of penetration with this position.

    4. Woman On Back: This is also similar to missionary position. The only difference is that the man is in a sitting position while penetrating the vagina while the woman is lying on her back.

    5. Woman On Top: This is a little risky especially for later stages of pregnancy. However, its advantage allows women to control the phasing of the intercourse and the depth of the penetration.